I CANNOT HATE; BE YOURSELF!
I don’t like to hate, else I would have said; “I hate to hate”. But I just can’t. In fact, maybe I just cannot hate.
Don’t judge me yet. That’s just me.
I love to explain, I don’t like to list.
I am more concerned about “why” than “what”.
Again, don’t judge me; that am just me.
I love to be appreciated and that’s what brings me out.
I would rather stay alone with myself than hang around someone or people who don’t appreciate me.
I am my own best friend and the best thing I do for myself is putting smiles on faces.
I love words, I love gestures, and I love anything that can enable me express my thoughts in a way that there must be smiles on faces.
I don’t like to impose my ideas, opinions, perspectives or preferences on people, and as a result, I prefer to stay neutral and only attract those who are naturally interested in me.
Because I am my own best friend, hanging around friends deprives me of time with myself and that’s why it is torturing to stay around unappreciative people.
Because I don’t like to hate, I can tolerate anything. But it is so not fair to keep enduring when I can rather enjoy.
I love it when people appreciate me, understand me and allow me to be myself.
I open up to such people and I go to any extent to keep smiles on their faces.
I don’t mind dissatisfying my own best friend to keep anyone who understands me as a friend.
I love to teach and that’s why I love to stay around those who love it when I teach them.
Because most people are more interested in “what” than “why”, I am not so interested in learning from just anybody.
Most people make friends that they can learn from, but for me it is different.
I make friends that I can teach.
I love to think.
Thinking has made me my own best friend.
It has also opened my consciousness to the realities of life.
Things are not often as they seem.
Common sense is not common.
People are bound by patterns, traditions, methods, materials, and a whole lot of insignificant things, whereas, simple reason can liberate them.
Why would I make a friend to teach me how things are done, rather than explore the numerous possibilities that nobody else has realized?
I love to teach my friends that they are unique.
I love to teach my friends that there is nothing they cannot do.
Because of the way my mind works, I see many different ways of doing the same things.
I also see that certain people are better at doing certain things than certain others.
Why would I struggle to learn a thing that I will struggle to maintain?
I would rather delegate certain things to those who are better at them than struggle all my life to do them.
That way, I can focus on those that I can do best and even enjoy why doing them.
The kinds of friends I love to keep are those who can see things the way I see them.
I can do anything for those who can appreciate me for who I am. I can even become their own ideal person, at the expense of my own ideals.
I love people who believe, despite odds, that there are possibilities to be explored.
I love those who believe that there are better ways of doing things than the ways that already exist.
I believe in identifying what works and building on it, rather than dogmatically sticking to traditions, whether or not they have been productive.
I don’t believe that people have to be older to be wiser.
I don’t believe either that because something worked for one person in one way, it must work for another person in the same way.
I am unique.
What impresses me is not what impresses others.
What determines my decisions is not what determines the decisions of others.
If “why” is more important to me than “what”, does it not change everything?
If I would rather elaborate than itemize, does it not change everything?
I am boring to a certain kind of people, but I am interesting to some.
If truly I am left to be myself, I will both find more fulfillment and accomplish more.
If only I am understood, I would be enjoyed, rather than endured.
If you want to be relevant to me, you don’t have to pity me, you only have to understand me.
Don’t judge me yet, just understand me.
This is me.
I cannot just hate.
Maybe if I hated the things I don’t like, I would not have tolerated them for so long.
Maybe if I could hate, I would have had a closet that I would never leave, and only welcome those who meet my taste.
Maybe if I could hate, people would have really known me for who I am.
I am my own best friend, and seeing everybody smile is what I do for my best friend.
Those who judge me and refuse to respond to my effort would only receive less commitment from me.
That would have been worse if only I could hate.
I would probably return to my closet and permanently shut out those who deprive me of my fulfillment.
Deep down, I need another best friend.
Every day, I search among my friends to know who I can offer the gift of myself.
Who on earth deserves to deprive me of my time with myself?
It must be one who believes in me.
I keep nothing back from the one who can believe in me.
But what will I get in return?
Will I be judged or will I be understood?
Whatever I get in return, I will never seize to be myself.
I cannot hate.
The time has come to be myself!
Now listen to me, my friend.
You must be yourself!
You have to be sure of what determines your decisions and be serious with them, or you’ll be tossed about in life.
You have to evaluate whether you are understood and whether you understand, before you commit yourself.
You have to know that most people are interested in what they can get from you.
For me, “how” is the connection between “what” and “why”. But “why” is the most important.
That is me.
You may be asking; “What can you do for me?”, “how much can you offer?”, “what will I get in return”…
But have you relaxed first to ask the question; “why would you even want to do anything for me?”
You must understand “why” before “what”.
“Why” lies in the thoughts, deep down in the heart.
That is where the most valuable things in life reside.
Dig deep if you must get the best.
In life, the spiritual rules the physical through the intellectual. That’s my own opinion.
Patiently follow my weird way of analyzing life, without judging me. Remember, I love to explain. I am just being me (Smiles!). By the way, I am going through all this rigors so that you can be yourself:
The physical, which is made up of material things, is the least on the hierarchy. That is the realm where “what” springs from. Whether it is money, clothes, a car, a house or anything material, it is the final product and has the least significance in my hierarchy.
Next to the physical on my ranking, is the intellectual. It is from this realm that “how” emanates. The process to accomplish a thing or the medium, through which things are brought into existence, may often require intellectual. The purpose of a thing must be known before its features and components can be determined. “How” converts “why” to “what”. That’s just how my mind works. And of course, the intellectual resides in the mind.
The Spiritual tops the chart, and that is the realm that brings forth; “why”. “Why” bothers around reason and purpose. It determines everything. It is the purpose of a thing that determines its value or relevance. A house may be worth so much, or worth nothing, depending on the purpose for which it was offered. Very often, we associate reason with the brain. The brain may be the intellectual and emotional power house, but without it, the physical cannot be appreciated. The brain controls the senses. I cannot say where the spirit resides in the body, but a certain quote comes to my mind. “As a man thinks in his heart, so he is”. It might just be confusing associating the heart with thoughts, but the spiritual is associated so much with faith.
I don’t intend to pull you into philosophy, but I want you to consider what determines your decisions. Do you respond to what you see, think or feel? Do you evaluate people based on appearance or promises? Do you decide the worth of a gift by its size or weight? The most valuable gifts may neither be seen nor felt, they may just be thoughts.
This is how I think, and that’s what makes me to be me.
You don’t have to be me; neither do you have to be someone else. All you have to be is yourself.
I appreciate you for who you are, so will you appreciate me or judge me to be weird?
I am not difficult, I am only different.
I am cool with who I am. I don’t have to pretend.
I only need to work on being the best I can be, rather than imitating the old.
I treat each person with respect and trust that one believes in me.
With that one, I am myself and I don’t have to be sorry for being me.
Understand yourself, believe in yourself and be yourself, else, you may never be able to tell who is good for you.
“When” is another important factor, and the answer is “now”.
Do you remember where I started from?
I cannot hate.
I’m so sorry, I cannot hate.
Did I just say I’m sorry?
I don’t have to keep apologizing for who I am.
The fact that I cannot hate, neither makes me better or worse than you are. I am just me and you are you.
Be yourself and damn the consequences.
I am me and I will take the bull by the horn and be myself!
Learn from me if you want to be my friend.
I am not teaching you to be like me, get the point!
I teach my friends to be free!
When you love everyone, you will give each the respect that is deserved, and you will never feel an atom of guilt.
I choose to love, rather than to hate.
I choose to sacrifice for others, when the need arises.
But when I stay in my choice location; my closet, I am fulfilled and no one can even interrupt me with their own problems.
Can you really be with me and allow me to be myself?
With me, you can be yourself and never be judged for it!
Be yourself and that is when you will find those who truly appreciate you for who you are!
I cannot Hate; Be Yourself
Killer article man!
Hell ya man! Anyone reading that will get TONS of value! 👌
That’s good to know!
I sincerely appreciate your encouragement.
You are doing good too. I saw your awesome piece on the same subject.
I’m sorry Son for the delay in responding to your Post, I’m behind in my Blogging, I just found your message but I could never forget you anyway and I wouldn’t even try to, your special to me and your someone I more than appreciate, I value you highly. Hate is the absence of Love and that for sure is not you.
If we are speaking about Spiritual Truths, Jesus is our only Teacher, we listen to Him first not man, but if we are referring to let’s say Technology, or writing etc, I’m sure you could teach me much more than I know.
In reference to Life wisdom as God refers to it, we have it in our Senior years, it comes with grey hair, as we live through the years we understand what we didn’t in our younger years, we couldn’t because we hadn’t experienced it yet . But if we are talking about God’s wisdom, which we ask for and receive, yes as you said Son this is for any age not just for Seniors.
I hold a few Truths Son close to my heart and one is in the Scripture below and the other in the Song below.
Philippians 2:1-6 If there be therefore any consolation in Christ, if any comfort of Love, if any fellowship of the Spirit, if any bowels and mercies, Fulfill ye my joy, that ye be like-minded, having the same Love, being of one accord, of one mind. Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others.Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus:
Christian Love Always Son – Anne.
and Grannie Annie.
Hate is such a strong emotion. It take as much feeling to hate as it does to love. I prefer love.