Don't Deny

Take Responsibility

Denying Mistakes

Living A Lie

Are you now taking denial as your way of escape?
Are you giving up?
Are you trying to wipe away traces that you ever failed?
That’s being a chicken and I will not take that from you.
Time and again I pleaded with you to come back to me so that together we will make out something from what we had left. We had a team that was waxing strong and was only met with a temporary failure that could easily have been taken care of by team work and togetherness, but you chose to turn your back on us. I warned you that passing blames has never been a way out and can never be in this case, but you insisted that it was my entire fault. Again I pleaded to be heard, I begged for a chance to clarify doubts and take responsibility of the situation, but you shut the door against me. I cried out that every action had consequences and the option with the greatest votes is not necessarily the best one. I assured you that my reason for cancelling the operation midway was that the result may be devastating, but you insisted that it was the most popular opinion. I preferred to have a flopped operation than to lose an entire team, but you insisted that the team supported your opinion. I took my precautions and did the best thing I thought, which was to turn around regardless of how far we had gone on the wrong path. All my explanations fell on deaf ears and my suggestions were trashed.
Today, it has dawned on you that everything you do will always be associated with you and that the passed will always hunt you. Then you choose to dissolve the team and discard all that we have left? You prefer to wipe evidence of our existence rather than own up that you once failed. Do you think that you can really go far without making mistakes and taking responsibility of them? Do you really think that the new field you are trying to delve into will not have its own unique challenges?
Well, whatever you may have been thinking all these while is not my business. You have called, not to suggest, but to instruct that there was never a team. You insist that every acquired asset must be evacuated and every team member left to their fate. Can you go to that extent only to exonerate yourself? Will you do that to claim faultless and perfect so that you will brag about how spotless you are? Will you mount the podium and tell people not to do the very things you did to qualify to speak to them? Will you lie to be seen as a saint and trample on others to attain great heights? I will not take that nonsense. If you had called me as a friend to give you advice, I would have shown you all the loop holes in your plan and showed you how we could go higher together, but you chose to draw the sword.
I am a success today, because I never denied my failures. I have succeeded severally simply because I took responsibility of my mistakes. I am considered trustworthy, not because I never erred, but because I always owned up and faced my errors. Whose advantage is it if I claim that I never made a mistake? One who has never failed has never tried anything worthwhile. Did you learn to ride your bicycle without ever falling? Did you learn to swim without ever gulping water? What makes you think I will ever sacrifice my experience only for you to have an image that is not true? We still stand a chance of learning from our mistakes and making something out of what we have left, but you rather chose to live in denial and wipe out all traces. Sorry, that will never happen.
The tables have turned. My projections are beginning to manifest. The consequences of the little extent we went in error are beginning to hunt you. Instead of being grateful for how much damage I spared you, you try to intimidate me into scrapping this empire that we have painstakingly built. I am not the boy you have always thought I am. Now you must contend with me. You never wanted to hear me out, now I am the one to dictate the terms. You want to control people’s opinion about you by manipulating facts. I will never let that happen. What value will you have to project as a leader, when you attained your position by falsehood? What will you have to offer if all you’ve got are make beliefs? What will be your message when your whole life has been a mess? What will you have to preach when you commit the same offences that you were nominated to contend? I see your move as that of a coward. What makes you think that either I or any member of my team will ever regard you, when we know your pranks?
I will not take this for granted. I will not let this pass. I must discover all that you have hidden in the past and expose them. I will pass you through every verification exercise, before I ever accept anything you say. I will confront your very fears and set you free from this life of denial. Wiping away traces never erases the fact that things happened. If you are scared that your sins will hunt you, then face them now. If you have to go through any remedial process, I will ensure that you do so. Don’t forget that we’ve been friends. Don’t forget that I am still willing to have you back and make things right. Don’t forget that it went sour because of you in the first place. Don’t forget that I know all your allies and hideouts. Don’t forget that I know your habits and your hobbies. Don’t think that my silence has been cowardice, or my inactivity ignorance.
Don’t think I have any ill intensions towards you. Don’t even think that my mission has anything to do with revenge. I will not take advantage of you now that you need me, I will only make sure that I purge you of all your vices. I will not use your mistakes against you, I will rather use them to teach you the very lessons you have been evading. You lost your chance for a deliberation when you chose to impose your opinion on our team. I am forced to go about it my own way. It may hurt us really bad, but it is better to endure temporary pain to enjoy permanent pleasure. I will not join you to be a chicken. I will invite you to hear you out. I will give you every chance to express yourself, notwithstanding that you denied me such privilege. I will let you pour out your heart and I will pour out mine afterwards. But if you turn down my offer, you will be forced to dance to the tune of my music.
Why on earth will anyone chose a life of denial? Why can’t you face your fears and standup to your mistakes. Why are you bent on taking an easy way out? Why will you resign and claim that you never attempted? Why will you place your hands on the plough and look back?
I will stand by you to ensure that you don’t escape with any of these vices left in you. I will be there for you until you are refined. I will be committed to ensuring that due process takes its course. I will never let you out of my sight until you are pure. Then will I open my arms to you again. Then will I reassure you that you are still the one that can bring out the best in me. Turning your back on me only made me stronger and wiser. I will never turn my back on you, but will ensure that you always take responsibility of your actions. Our team is a formidable one and I will not let our experience waste away. We still need you, but we need you sane. Take my offer and accept my proposal. Don’t turn down my invitation because that might be your only chance to let us do this together as friends. If you insist on sticking to your adamant idiosyncrasies, I will be left with no other option than to bend your hand. I am determined to set you right even if it must take a war. Put back your sword to its sheaves or I will draw mine. My assurance to you is that we will finish together that which we started together. Whatever goes up must surely come down and what goes around comes around. I will be waiting for you because there is no option of resigning. You will not face your new predicament alone. Together we can turn it to be a beauty to behold. My hand is stretched out; take responsibility and stick to your commitment to align with me. If you were once passionate about our team then you can always become passionate again.
Don’t Resign: Take Responsibility

Nnamonu Tochukwu.
Take Responsibility: Are You Resigning?

About teeceecounsel

Who am I really? Can that be defined yet? Probably by the time I'm long gone and all the pieces of my activities are compiled and analysed then you can know what you want to know about me. Meanwhile, I write. Not because I love writing but because I love people. I love to care and love to share. I'm a deep thinker and I love to believe in the impossible. The ideal is attainable and a shot at it must be given. Don't say 'It won't work' rather ask 'how will it work? Nobody is ever doomed unless they made the choice. To resist good and to adopt evil is already doom. To loose hope is to choose doom but to believe that every step is a passing phase leading towards your hope is to choose progress. I may go on and on but my posts say it all. I don't force you to agree, I only say enjoy!
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  1. A long but eye opening and profound write up.

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