What do you do when you are faced with either an argument or a conflict to resolve?
I am of the opinion that a man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still.
Arguments don’t necessarily convince, results do.
Conflicts often arise when opinions differ.
Very often, we expect our opinions to be followed, without verifying whether they resonate with those of the other parties involved.
Arguing your case may arouse curiosity and eventually reveal the facts, but producing results in accordance with your perspective would often distinguish you and attract people to seek your opinion.
Arguments are often encountered and so are conflicts, but with wisdom and patience, they can be resolved.
I personally avoid arguments, but I often enjoy taking note of the various perspectives that people are emotionally glued to.
I love to observe arguments without getting emotionally involved in them.
I also try to painstakingly clarify issues, whenever I notice a conflict of ideas or procedure.
Understanding reduces conflicts and arguments.
The reason is simple; many people learn things by stipulated procedure, meanwhile, the same things that were learned, could be handled differently.
For example, a colleague of mine learned to type in usernames in capital letters, meanwhile, I understood that usernames were not case sensitive. Very often, she would argue with me that her username had to be typed in Caps Lock and I would proceed with her opinion to avoid delays.
On a certain day that there was no emergency, I typed in her username on lowercase and told her to type in her password without changing to uppercase.
She did, and to her greatest surprise, she was granted access to the platform that we wanted to to use.
Being open minded makes life a lot easier.
Being free to experiment opinions, is also one beautiful way of learning, as well as winning the approval of other people.
Resisting people’s opinions or sticking rigidly to your own is very likely to create a wrong impression or to stir up strife.
Conflicts are very much reduced when we accomodate the opinions of one another.
Arguments are reduced when we experiment or test the various conflicting opinions.
Daily Prompt: Conflicted; suggested this:
You’re in the middle of a terrible argument, and everyone turns to you to help resolve it. How do you respond? How do you react to conflict?
Photographers, artists, poets: show us a CONFLICT.
Ofcourse, I will do my best to ensure that I don’t make anybody appear stupid.
Arguments may be really stupid sometimes.
Another fact about opinions is that whatever a person believes to be true, becomes true for him/her.
No matter what you tell a person, the person’s conviction may not shift until there are tangible facts to either prove or disprove the opinion.
As a result, the first thing I do when invited to resolve an argument is to take a neutral stand.
I do so by asking a few questions that will convince the parties that I am trying to do a thorough analysis without bias.
I keep asking question until I am sure that I have a clear picture of the subject of argument.
Very often, the entire subject may seem childish to me and may be obviously not worth the time, but I still wouldn’t express that opinion in a hurry.
With a clear picture of the entire concept, I try to simplify the concept by breaking it down into easily comprehensible illustrations.
I paint new scenarios, narrate new stories, get the parties involved through imagination or attached emotionally through sentiments.
I eventually find a way to justify everybody’s opinion, before allowing everybody conclude on what opinion to settle for.
Very often, the exercise gets everyone laughing because everybody realises that they were simply describing different sides of the same coin.
How often have you found yourself searching for something that has been in your hand all along?
That’s the very same feeling you’ll have when you catch yourself arguing with someone that has the same opinion with you, but is only on another page.
There are often arguments that may end up being based on preferences and not facts. Such can be picked up from the onset and tactfully resolved.
How do you react to conflict?
Turning deaf ears to people’s opinions is one major source of conflict.
Being sensitive to opinions, is one preventive measure that keeps arguments and conflicts away.
The moment I sense a difference in opinion, I try to listen without interfering.
Once I have gathered enough facts to be certain of the basis of such opinion, I go ahead to compare and contrast the options at hand.
Creatively analysing all the alternatives always gives a much broader view.
It takes one who is willing to observe and analyse various alternatives, without discarding any as stupid, to manage conflicting ideas.
Clarifications can be made by simplification, comparing and contrasting.
Everyone who is carried along will be able to identify superior opinions and accept them without feeling hurt, if their own perspectives were equally put into consideration.
Humans are emotional beings as well as rational beings.
In handling differences we must not neglect either of those aspects.
Sometimes we could be more emotional than we are rational and that is one factor that can ruin the authenticity of the results of an argument.
Arguments must bring clarity.
Conflicts can only be resolved by transparency, simplicity and a willingness to either accept or let go of certain things.
Our responses to conflicts and arguments determine whether or not there will be a headway through them.
What’s the point arguing when there are other ways to prove points?
What’s the need for a conflict, when there are alternatives that can produce the desired results without involving all the parties concerned.
Life is not a constant. The only constant thing in life is change. As a result, those that go ahead are those that don’t cling to physical things.
Principles govern the earth and they are glaring.
Nobody argues such facts as whatever goes up must surely come down. Gravity proves it.
When conflicts arise, apply the principles that reveals the results and the conclusion will be glaring to all concerned.
There’s no hard and fast rule in life.
There’s nothing much worth clinging to.
There’s neither need for an argument nor a conflict, but when they crop up, we must masterfully resolve them.
Life: Resolving Conflicts and Arguments