Life: Egotism, Benevolence And Love

Goal Achievement Quote – Feb. 15, 2013 inspired me with this:

“Without love, benevolence becomes egotism.” —Martin Luther King, Jr.

Very often, we assume charity and benevolence to be signs of love.
In as much as charity and benevolence are attributes of love, they could also be an avenue to amass applause and attract people’s admiration.
Love neither seeks a reward nor an appreciation.
Love lingers whether or not there is reciprocation.
Love does the right thing, not because it is a requirement for justification, but because it is the best thing to do.
Love is not as a result of either compulsion or conditioning.
Love is faithful and diligent with benevolence as if it’s a personal obligation.
Love comes from a transformation of the nature of the mind, not by a regulation.
Love has a different motive from egotism; it seeks to enhance others.
Egotism may counterfeit the attributes of love, but it cannot sustain it.
Rather than pretend to love, be transformed by love.
When love becomes part of your nature, you will not need perfect conditions to perform, neither will you need anybody to keep a check on you.
When love becomes part of you or when you become part of love, you will have a passion for manifesting such attributes of love as benevolence, willingly.
Your very heart desires will be generated from love, your words would be seasoned with love and your actions will portray love.
You will neither need the law nor a guide to put you right because you will know exactly what to do.
When love is part of you, you will detest selfishness, pride and egotism.
When love resides in you, you will not have to fake anything.
Love makes benevolence joyful and not burdensome.
Love makes right-living attractive, without either a bunch of codes of conduct or rules and regulations.
Love makes benevolence enticing, without either a bunch of dos and don’ts or terms and conditions.
Benevolence will flow as easy as a healthy man’s breathe, if love is your nature.
Bitterness, grudges, resentment, anger, pride, greed and the like, cannot survive where love resides.
Does love reside in you?
Has love become your nature?
Desire love, believe love and manifest love.
You can be love in person.

Life: Egotism, Benevolence And Love


About teeceecounsel

Who am I really? Can that be defined yet? Probably by the time I'm long gone and all the pieces of my activities are compiled and analysed then you can know what you want to know about me. Meanwhile, I write. Not because I love writing but because I love people. I love to care and love to share. I'm a deep thinker and I love to believe in the impossible. The ideal is attainable and a shot at it must be given. Don't say 'It won't work' rather ask 'how will it work? Nobody is ever doomed unless they made the choice. To resist good and to adopt evil is already doom. To loose hope is to choose doom but to believe that every step is a passing phase leading towards your hope is to choose progress. I may go on and on but my posts say it all. I don't force you to agree, I only say enjoy!
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22 Responses to Life: Egotism, Benevolence And Love

  1. Egotism… I had heard and used other forms of reference to the ego but this term is new to me, of course I looked it up and as I read I thought: mea culpa… This is not good! Then I read this line in your writing: Love has a different motive from egotism; it seeks to enhance others. And I gave a sigh of relief… Though I will keep this word in mind every time I write or talk or speak… Egotism is quite unappealing…I haven’t finished reading your post…so, to be continued 🙂

    • I am sincerely excited about your objectivity.
      This your response is concrete evidence to the fact that you teach to learn and research to prove…
      I keep saying that you are exceptionally unique, especially with teaching.
      I can’t wait to see where this will lead.
      I am proud of you, my friend! 🙂

      • “When love becomes part of your nature, you will not need perfect conditions to perform, neither will you need anybody to keep a check on you.” In this line, love could also be vocation and nature could be teaching, it expresses- but in beautiful words- the effect I’ve found happens with teaching….when vocation is part of your teaching… I have no idea if love is my nature but as I grow older I know I feel love for more things, from the simple to the comlex, or is it amazement mixed with gratitude… I just feel this easiness with expressing love like small children do…and I LOVE it jejejee 🙂

      • It takes love to recognize the needs of others and to respond to them.
        You always recognize a need to teach and you give teaching your best.
        That is love in action.
        As a trained architect, you definitely have prospects with designs and probably construction, but you gave them up to meet the needs that you recognized could be solved through teaching.
        That’s love.
        Some people give because of the impression it would create about them, but the choice to be a teacher is obviously not directed at impression but at necessity. The love in you inspires me.
        Love is not seen in obedience to rules, it is seen in response to convictions.
        It is a good sign, my friend! 🙂

      • i think i’m going to print out all your comments and put them all in a jar, paste a tag on the jar titled VOTES OF CONFIDENCE to have at hand everytime my self-confidence fails… thank you Teecee

      • You can imagine! 🙂
        Your creativity is amazingly exceptional!
        Do whatever you need to do, my dear but just don’t ever forget how special you are and how much your influence can affect generations!
        I am still excited about your jar concept, I can’t help but laugh.
        The smiles you have consistently put on my face can’t be forgotten in a lifetime.

      • jajajaaaa and since I ca’t count on my memory for detailed recounts, I’ putting them in a jar… i recently offered this quote to my students for reflection: “people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel” by Maya Angelou the memory of the mind might fail but the memory of the heart is always as awake!

      • Wow! Thank you very much! Another beautiful blogging friend of mine, Toni at has shared that quote with me before.
        I am excited that my simple words could make you feel good. That shows the kind of beautiful heart that you are gifted with. I appreciate you…

      • it’s mutual my friend! clicking right over to the baroness’ blog…I’m following her now and like to tale my time in reading her posts much like I do with yours… your (both yours and the baroness’) poetic language requires of my full attention 🙂

      • What can I say?
        You both have inspired me the most in blogging (I mean you and the baroness).
        I still have not forgotten where it all began.
        You can see for yourself:
        I trust your creativity, as you are the greatest collaboration expert I Have ever known.
        Check out the comments, follow the links and let me know where this leads us. (I mean the three of us).
        I can count on you as always! 🙂

      • You sure can my friend! 🙂 am I the luckiest? To be in such an opportunity to collaborate with true thinkers and poetic philosophers! Thank you

      • You’ve started again, my friend! Ain’t you getting it the other way? I am lucky to be in such an opportunity to collaborate with you! You are an exceptional friend and teacher. You are just so special! Thanks for always making me feel great. That’s the sign of greatness, remember? 🙂

  2. Freedomborn says:

    A very good message teeceecounsel with much Biblical Truth… Love needs to always be our motivation in all things, I’m going to focus on your first words below, although you made some other very good points to ponder on as well…..

    * Very often, we assume charity and benevolence to be signs of love. In as much as charity and benevolence are attributes of love, they could also be an avenue to amass applause and attract people’s admiration.*

    The Pharisees did their fleshy works publicly to be acclaimed not because they Loved, their deeds were not God’s good works, they were of the selfish flesh, they were not empowered by The Holy Spirit as ours are when we are in Christ Jesus.

    Today we have all types of Charities seeking to help the less fortunate and those in need of even the basics, in most instances they were started by just a few people with a great desire to help those in urgent need but because of their own limited funds, they reach out into their communities and ask for their help, it is not to advertise their goodness but so more can be ministered too in their need. God tells us in the Bible to seek ways to help others less fortunate then ourselves, so it is not wrong to make the needy known to others as we seek to help them, Paul did so and asked others to do the same but as you shared Tee … if our giving does not come from Love then it is worthless, God Loves a cheerful giver because He knows then that our motivation is Love, Love wants to give it does not have to be forced.

    If someone is giving because they feel they must, then they need to examine why they do not want to freely give and this is the same if they are not giving at all. God tells us over and over again in the Scriptures the many Blessings He has for us, and He gave us Jesus, to set us free, His greatest gift, God is Love He gives willingly and abundantly and so will we in Christ Jesus. He can also see into the closet of our hearts and knows what motivates our actions and words and if it is not Love, we are not His righteous Children. Jesus in Mathew 25 commends His sheep, these are all God’s righteous Children but as we see below it is not so with the goats or those who were fleshy or worldly and self orientated.

    Matthew 25: 42-46 Then shall He say also unto them on the left hand, Depart from me, ye cursed, into everlasting fire, prepared for the devil and his angels For I was hungry, and ye gave me no meat: I was thirsty, and ye gave me no drink: I was a stranger, and ye took me not in: naked, and ye clothed me not: sick, and in prison, and ye visited me not. Then shall they also answer Him, saying, Lord, when saw we thee hungry, or a thirst, or a stranger, or naked, or sick, or in prison, and did not minister unto thee? Then shall He answer them, saying, Verily I say unto you, In as much as ye did it not to one of the least of these, ye did it not to me. And these shall go away into everlasting punishment: but the righteous into life eternal.

    Christian Love from both of us – Anne

    • I am so excited about your response, Anne! You so beautifully expressed my concept and motive of love. I am considering sharing this response as a whole new post.
      Love is selfless and it does not carry out charitable actions for the purpose of any form of reward.
      Love is a nature that spurs benevolent actions.
      Love is not self-centred and that is why it can endure.
      Love enjoys enhancing others and can joyfully wait, willingly sacrifice and cheerfully share.
      Love is more than mere emotions, love is even more than just an attitude; love is a nature.
      When transformed by love, one exudes benevolence naturally.
      I am always inspired by your responses and your scriptural approach.
      Keep up the good work.
      My regards to Ron.

      • Freedomborn says:

        Thank you teeceecounsel for your very uplifting and encouraging reply, I suppose the best way to sum up what we both shared is……. Love is a Action not just a word!

        God bless you greatly teeceecounsel as you bless others.

        Christian Love – Anne.

      • You are always welcome, Anne.
        I agree with you.
        God bless you too! 🙂

    • “God Loves a cheerful giver” this is lovely, I think I first heard this phrase in elementary school with the nuns, so beside bringing me back good memories you also brought back a feeling of the pureness of childhood goodness…thank you!

      • You are always welcome, my friend!
        Love finds it’s way to becoming part of us through words and experiences that are associated with pureness. You seem to be remembering from where the deposits started accumulating.
        You have so grown to become a cheerful giver! 🙂

  3. Very nice. Very well done. Namaste ~Paul

  4. Freedomborn says:

    Thanks Teeceecounsel a wonderful expose on subject of love, I was impressed. When Love is apart or resides in us, we will not have to fake anything, you`ve given a challenge to be a love person, thank you.


    • You are welcome, Ron!
      I am excited to have your response once again. You are always straight to the point. Anne has always been keeping me on my toes and I enjoy her responses too.
      I appreciate your words. It is worth it, being a love person. 🙂

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