Can you handle what you accept?
Are you responsible for the things you complain about?
Are you the cause of your problem?
I have seen things; things that we see everyday. But detached from my routine, I see things differently.
Sitted a distance away,
separated from all the entaglements of life;
it’s amazing what I can see!
I see a man lying on a chair, by the entrance to large school.
There is a big gate mounted, and this man controls access.
A car pulls up, obviously on it’s way out. This man who should open the gate, seems very reluctant. With hand signals to question his agenda, he mumbles some words with a grumble, and unwillingly shuffled his feet towards the gate to perfom his duty. This was obviously his job, yet it was disturbance to him. He sure accepted the offer yet it seems a burden to handle.
This his action amused me, but though surpressed or commonly disguised, this same trait lurks around some of us. We strike a bargain and feel bad about it. We seal a deal and complain afterwards, we sign an agreement and develope shaky feet mid-way.
I see another man; this one is very educated. He is a professional teacher, a literature consultant. He has equally studied law and practices on part-time. He has a masters degree and many more qualifications.
He accepts a voluntary monthly routine, where his duty runs for one week and only at nights. He claims to find fulfilment in it, so he takes it quite serious.
An opportunity comes to mark some scripts on contract. He quickly grabs it and seals the deal, then some little conflicts start. The scripts are numerous, it’s procedure; rigorous, cordinating it; very strenuous and with the deadlines, he gets nervous.
The voluntary monthly routine clashes with the marking and there’s no way to combine the two.
The remuneration for marking turns out not to be comensurate with the effort. Pressure increases as different phases of analysis of grades and entering of scores introduce their own new challenges. The lament starts, complaining sets in, and though mature, very experienced and sufficiently educated the same traits that the gate man exhibited spilled out.
Sometimes it is surpressed and sometimes it is disguised but some sort of discontentment, silent complaint or inner resentment thrives within. Sometimes it’s a more obvious trait like constant sadness, prolonged depression or even an outright outburst of emotions. Some people breakdown in tears and others yell in anger and fury but even though there’s a lot of pressure, it was accepted.
Very often we want to eat our cakes and still have them. We want to gather money from several jobs and still have a loving home. Many people gather liabilities, mistaking them for assets and all kinds of pressures pile, including financial ones.
With less thought, energy wastes but with wise counsel, there is always a better way.
How long did you say you will work before you focus on your home? When precisely did you say you will venture into your dream? How much longer will you wait before you ease yourself of these burdens that you probably agreed to?
Every single day seems to have a new challenge, we are so occupied that we can’t afford to strategize. We just complain, grumble and lament or simply endlessly endure. Whatever has a begining should also have an end. If you don’t yet feel satisfied, then there’s a better way. Take our time to prioritize so that you don’t lie to yourself. You can pretend to everyone but you stay with yourself. Can you handle what you accept or are you setting yourself up? Let’s try not to bite more than we can chew and blame it on survival.
If we can dream it, then we can do it, so let’s aim for a better life.
You may have resolved your own issues but many people lag behind.
Lasting solutions may take time to implement and quite a lot of thought. If really we want to change things we have to change the things we do.
And sometimes, to be free, we have to walk away.
Take a walk from time to time and enjoy a fresh breathe, look around, from pole to pole and give your eyes some food.
SET YOUR PRIORITIES RIGHT and take advantage of PROPER PLANNING.
Life has a lot to offer, if we can get responsible. Face the facts of your life the very way they are, then set your best plans in place and run the plans in such a way that you must produce results.
To avoid regrets and such tendencies, be sure to know yourself. Don’t accept to do things that will deprive you of your peace. Accept only what you can handle, and tasks that will develope you.
Feel at home to walk away, rather than live a life of complaint.
We can really do some good thinking to plan a better life. It is better to accept what you can handle and not complain, than to accept what you cannot handle, simply believing that change will come. Try to avoid accepting terms with the illusion that more work is fulfilment. Fulfilment takes place within, when nothing contradicts. Resolve your emotional conflicts by carefully choosing what you accept. Ensure that it will bring you joy or whatever you desire. Accept what you can handle so that you don’t have to blame yourself.
We all see things daily but success comes from reading between the lines. Many look but do not see and most others see but do not observe.
Be able to weigh the consequences of the choices you make and be ready to take responsibility for them.
This question is an important one: can you handle what you accept?