Loving Enemies

Your enemies are not only those that hate you but also those whose presence or actions set you back, whether or not they love you.
Stay away from them or atleast, keep them an arms length.

Not every sweet thing is good for you.

Learn to surround yourself with the things and people that move you foward while keeping your distance from those that distract and set you back.

Many people we tag ‘friends’ are actually ‘enemies’ not because they habour ill intensions but because we fail to manage our time properly once we are around them.

Do I sound harsh?
I’m not done yet.
Your favorite game could also be your enemy if you let it eat up all the time you have for things that are critical to your progress.
Don’t leave your best meal out of this!

I always love to say this; “Set Your Priorities Right!“. Doing otherwise would mean having loving enemies around you all the time.

And by the way, you can love your enemies!
Those that hate you would always try to plot your downfall and they do so by taking advantage of your weaknesses or capitallizing on loopholes.
They keep you onguard, make you upright and keep you on your toes.
Loving enemies are also those who may habour ill intensions against you but all their effort moves you foward, I will choose to tag these ones “hating friends”. They may be hating but their results would never have come from some loving friends because they wouldn’t want to hurt your feelings at the expense of progress.

With our well intending friends; “loving enemies” and our ill intending enemies “hating friends”, hovering around us each day, we just have to play our cards well and standout as an example for them. Love them all by succeeding and not by complaining or grumbling.

There are loving enemies all around; don’t let them stop you, keep going.

Nnamonu Tochukwu.


About teeceecounsel

Who am I really? Can that be defined yet? Probably by the time I'm long gone and all the pieces of my activities are compiled and analysed then you can know what you want to know about me. Meanwhile, I write. Not because I love writing but because I love people. I love to care and love to share. I'm a deep thinker and I love to believe in the impossible. The ideal is attainable and a shot at it must be given. Don't say 'It won't work' rather ask 'how will it work? Nobody is ever doomed unless they made the choice. To resist good and to adopt evil is already doom. To loose hope is to choose doom but to believe that every step is a passing phase leading towards your hope is to choose progress. I may go on and on but my posts say it all. I don't force you to agree, I only say enjoy!
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8 Responses to Loving Enemies

  1. Johnson says:

    This post is awesome! The phrase “loving enemies” was really creative and deep. A mark of genius.

    • Thanks much! You can bet that you inspired it, one way or the other.
      We have no business hating but we sure can keep a distance until we can be disciplined enough to be of help as well as receive help from those who we brand ‘friends’.
      Thanks once again!

  2. LittleEmz says:

    I have a dear friend who is upset and hurt by me because I can’t manage my time around her. Her chaos and demands took up so much of my time, that I had to steer myself away from her. I have tried to explain in as kind a way as possible, my reasons for my distance, but as she is a ‘giver’ she doesn’t understand that I am physically and emotionally unable to give as much back. Thank you for your reassuring post, I don’t feel quite as selfish now.

    • Quite a typical example of what I mean.
      Trying to explain would never work for some people. It’s a good thing that you discovered early enough to recover. You can spend time with such friends once in a while. But just like I put it, it must be once in a while. There are gifted givers, you can’t beat them at it. So be the best of yourself and carry those that enable your progress along. It’s much better to be relevant than to be liked.
      Thanks for sharing your experience.

  3. Not harsh, just real and a great post, thanks, Teecee! ๐Ÿ™‚

  4. Stuartart says:

    Oh, so many wise words there. This is so true and not harsh. Keeping certain people we love (but are negative) at arms length is the only way. Let your example be there for them to see and be inspired by.

    • “Let your example be there for them to see and be inspired by”.
      I really love that line. Very often, we waste our precious time on things that produce no result at all. We talk to people who are neither learning nor listening and we also do so at the expense of crucial problems that we can solve for other people. All in the name of friendship. A friend must be relevant in getting you to your dreams or atleast, corperative and supportive. Time is valuable and must be used judiciously. Thanks much for that beautiful response. ๐Ÿ™‚

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