Life is made up of people, things, plants, animals, experiences, cultures, dreams, differences, similarities, wishes, desires and a countless other items that would amount to an endless list.
Due to dreams, wishes, desires, differences, etc, demands are placed on us from time to time. Some of which we are obligated to perform, some of which we may volunteer to do and some to which we must say no.
Due to upbringing, a number of people are accustomed to certain responses and they have never thought it wise to review them. On the other hand a number of people have groomed themselves to be so selfish or insensitive to the needs of others around them.
Some people have a mindset of “what is mine, I keep. What is yours, we negotiate”.
Therefore, they seize the opportunities they have to exploit those who are accustomed to respond positively to every request.
Some people present appealing offers, promising good turn over or a rewarding payback, only to disappear once they get what they want.
Fraud has become rampart because many victims just find it difficult to say ‘no’.
Sometimes or should I say most times, greed propels people to accept bargains that are visibly bad.
There are many sides to saying no.
One has to do with rejecting vices like: lying, stealing, cheating, drug abuse, examination malpractice, abortion and the likes. Always stand your ground and do the right thing. It takes saying ‘no’ mostimes.
Another is when faced with worthless offers. Many times, simply because an idea was brought by close friends and we wouldn’t want to hurt their feelings, we go ahead to carry it out irrespective of it’s lapses and negative effect on us. This shouldn’t be the case. Our evaluations should not be waved off due to baseless emotional attachments. Many friendships keep one party suffering consistently while the other party is feeding fat on the first. Relationships should be mutual. We are free to give all that we want to our friends, we must also ensure that they add to us and not just consume us.
Saying ‘no’ also has a side that deals with training. People always like the easy way out. Some people would always beg, simply because they know that they’ll receive. Continuously letting them get things by begging, prevents them from learning to work hard and to figure out solutions when there are challenges. Say no in order to teach and to build tough people.
Finally, say ‘no’ when it is the right thing to say.
Try not to be blinded by the many masks that cover appearances. We were made to subdue the earth and to have dominion over it. We shouldn’t bend to pressures and accept anything that comes to us. We should take charge and ensure that our standards are met. To those that want to cut coners and lure us into mediocrity, we must say ‘no’.
We must still keep our arms open to welcome sound ideas, good bargains, worthy virtues, bright opportunities and the likes but we must shut the door to deceit, folly, error, mediocrity, crime, tricks and their counterparts.
Always have a sieve to separate appropriately.
There are times to say no!