There Are Times To Say No!

Life is made up of people, things, plants, animals, experiences, cultures, dreams, differences, similarities, wishes, desires and a countless other items that would amount to an endless list.
Due to dreams, wishes, desires, differences, etc, demands are placed on us from time to time. Some of which we are obligated to perform, some of which we may volunteer to do and some to which we must say no.
Due to upbringing, a number of people are accustomed to certain responses and they have never thought it wise to review them. On the other hand a number of people have groomed themselves to be so selfish or insensitive to the needs of others around them.
Some people have a mindset of “what is mine, I keep. What is yours, we negotiate”.
Therefore, they seize the opportunities they have to exploit those who are accustomed to respond positively to every request.
Some people present appealing offers, promising good turn over or a rewarding payback, only to disappear once they get what they want.
Fraud has become rampart because many victims just find it difficult to say ‘no’.
Sometimes or should I say most times, greed propels people to accept bargains that are visibly bad.
There are many sides to saying no.
One has to do with rejecting vices like: lying, stealing, cheating, drug abuse, examination malpractice, abortion and the likes. Always stand your ground and do the right thing. It takes saying ‘no’ mostimes.
Another is when faced with worthless offers. Many times, simply because an idea was brought by close friends and we wouldn’t want to hurt their feelings, we go ahead to carry it out irrespective of it’s lapses and negative effect on us. This shouldn’t be the case. Our evaluations should not be waved off due to baseless emotional attachments. Many friendships keep one party suffering consistently while the other party is feeding fat on the first. Relationships should be mutual. We are free to give all that we want to our friends, we must also ensure that they add to us and not just consume us.
Saying ‘no’ also has a side that deals with training. People always like the easy way out. Some people would always beg, simply because they know that they’ll receive. Continuously letting them get things by begging, prevents them from learning to work hard and to figure out solutions when there are challenges. Say no in order to teach and to build tough people.
Finally, say ‘no’ when it is the right thing to say.
Try not to be blinded by the many masks that cover appearances. We were made to subdue the earth and to have dominion over it. We shouldn’t bend to pressures and accept anything that comes to us. We should take charge and ensure that our standards are met. To those that want to cut coners and lure us into mediocrity, we must say ‘no’.
We must still keep our arms open to welcome sound ideas, good bargains, worthy virtues, bright opportunities and the likes but we must shut the door to deceit, folly, error, mediocrity, crime, tricks and their counterparts.
Always have a sieve to separate appropriately.
There are times to say no!

-Nnamonu Tochukwu.
Teeceecounsel.

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About teeceecounsel

Who am I really? Can that be defined yet? Probably by the time I'm long gone and all the pieces of my activities are compiled and analysed then you can know what you want to know about me. Meanwhile, I write. Not because I love writing but because I love people. I love to care and love to share. I'm a deep thinker and I love to believe in the impossible. The ideal is attainable and a shot at it must be given. Don't say 'It won't work' rather ask 'how will it work? Nobody is ever doomed unless they made the choice. To resist good and to adopt evil is already doom. To loose hope is to choose doom but to believe that every step is a passing phase leading towards your hope is to choose progress. I may go on and on but my posts say it all. I don't force you to agree, I only say enjoy!
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12 Responses to There Are Times To Say No!

  1. Freedomborn says:

    There is some very good advice teeceecounsel in your message, when you talked about saying no to those things that are evil that was spot on and not accepting everthing offered and that also goes for wrong teaching, everything must be confirmed by God’s Truth through the empowering of The Holy Spirit and not by man’s understanding, what does God have to say about realationships and those who hate us….

    Luke 6 : 27 – 35 But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. And unto him that smiteth thee on the one cheek offer also the other; and him that taketh away thy cloak forbid not to take thy coat also. Give to every man that asketh of thee; and of him that taketh away thy goods ask them not again. And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise. For if ye love them which love you, what thank have ye? for sinners also love those that love them. And if ye do good to them which do good to you, what thank have ye? for sinners also do even the same. And if ye lend to them of whom ye hope to receive, what thank have ye? for sinners also lend to sinners, to receive as much again. But Love ye your enemies, and do good, and lend, hoping for nothing again; and your reward shall be great, and ye shall be the children of the Highest: for he is kind unto the unthankful and to the evil.

    Some people say it is too hard to be a Christian and it sure is if your trying to do it yourself only Jesus can do it in us.

    Christian Love Anne.

  2. The universe always supports us and this could not have been more perfectly timed to my in box! I tend to hate saying no, especially to people I care about or inspiration (the muses want to dance now I’d better go the heck with taking my vitamins or walking my dog…) and so i recently reframed that into a way that makes it easier (when it’s not an obvious this is BAD situation), I now say if only to myself ” I’m not saying no, I’m saying not right now”

  3. orples says:

    I can think of several times I should have said ‘no’, and have regretted the fact that I didn’t. Once you trip up a time, or two, it sure makes it easier to say ‘no’. I listen to my gut these days, and I won’t hesitate to walk on if that’s what that little voice inside tells me to. Good post and good advice.

  4. yes that’s true, no is a very important word, which is why most babies learn it first off!

  5. Binky says:

    It is sometimes difficult to say no, though, even when we really should.

    • That is one sad truth but we have to face it. No is not easy to say but sometimes it’s the right thing. We must know when to take our stand and do what must be done! Thanks for your response, it is appreciated.

  6. Excellent write up and so true…learning to understand and saying no is also an art….have seen so many people saying yes just to please a thought or a person and later on regretting and/or cribbing…

    • That’s true. Most times, saying ‘no’ is opposing other ideas, values, instructions, offers, suggestions, etc. It is a difficult stand to take but if it’s the right stand, don’t hesitate to take it. Time will always work in favour of the more worthy stand. Thanks.

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