Have you ever been in a situation where you keep going after a particular thing and probably keep getting as much of it as you want, only to end up wanting more of it shortly after?
Is it money? Have you sought after a salary or wages of some sort only to end up realizing that you want more of it?
Is it an addiction? Have you tried quenching the hunger or thirst for something with so much of that something only to realize that you still want more?
Is it an award? Have you strived so hard to earn recognition and afterwards you are back to wanting more?
Is it an experience or a sensation? You had it once or probably over and over again but you still want it once more?
Does this wanting ever end?
Does it stem from lack, ambition or understanding?
Is it a strive to meet up socially or emotionally?
Or is it just an insatiable inner longing?
Are you comfortable with wanting more each time, just for the momentary euphoria?
It wouldn’t be wrong to say that ‘who you are determines what you want and what you do.’
The value you place on yourself influences your carriage and comportment.
Who are you?
How do you rate yourself?
Do you compare yourself to others or sometimes feel worthless?
What, about yourself, makes you want more?
Your true worth is not derived from what you posses neither is it ascertained from your experience. You may also be wrong to assume that people’s opinion about you is the yardstick.
The good side and the bad side!
If white and black are two extremes, then there are numerous shades inbetween!
Wanting more can create either of two extremes:
1) Channeling resources towards improving the future,
2) Squandering resources on the present, at the expense of the future.
Resources on the other hand could be time, money, ideas, opportunities, moments, relationships, values, affection, etc.
Resources are best invested but majority either save or squander it.
Wanting more either enslaves you or makes you a master.
Being hopelessly stuck to a pattern that probably does more harm than good is slavery whereas, maneuvering, creating and deploying solutions that defeat the monotonous cravings is mastery.
Mastery brings satisfaction and fulfilment.
Wanting more is likely to generate tendencies:
i) To only consume, receive or to be totally dependent. This sounds like slavery to me. Every resource in the hands of a person in this category gets squandered. This one wants more therefore he gulps everything and waits for the next opportunity.
ii) To share or to be partially dependent. This is a summary of the numerous shades that are inbetween two extremes. Chaps here range average. They have things to offer and they get offered things in return.
They gulp some, save some, invest some, share some, dash some… They’re just there.
iii) To produce, give or to be independent. People here grow to be giants and get to be relied upon simply because they become masters. They put piece upon piece of their resources; ideas, money, affection, comfort, etc together until they build the empires that become refuge even for others. They hide some resources away from their appetites and with them, create a perpetual supply or permanent solution.
Your ability to gather your experiences of yesterday, convert them to lessons for today, take consistent doses of them everyday until your dream for tomorrow becomes reality is an indication of great worth.
Change is inevitable and that’s why we must not conclude on our selfworth based on the things we see.
Our ability to take advantage of every available opportunity to create positive change is a more reliable yardstick.
The more you alter your values and habits positively, the more chances you create for a more rewarding future.
Fulfilment is more satisfying than acquiring more.
A conflict of priorities can cause lack of fulfilment even after massive acquisition.
Spend the most time with the people that matter the most to you and with those that support your improvement best.
Practice the very things that make you feel accomplished and brings you the most joy.
Focus on the ideas and opportunities that favour your productivity better.
Be yourself; a little nicer though. Smiles.
Author: Nnamonu Tochukwu.