I try to pause and reflect before saying or doing something….before reacting….to keep these criteria in mind….
Is is expressed without harshness?
Is it well intended?
Is it beneficial?
Is it timely?
Is it true?
And if what I’m about to say or do doesn’t meet those criteria, to use restraint in choosing whether it should be said or done…..and usually I find it better to wait….
And a shorter version of that…..
this is sometimes referred to as “wise speech”…..
reflecting, considering and making a wise choice…..
is it kind?….is it helpful?
Another version of this “page,”with a sky photo: “Wise Speech: Is it kind, is it helpful?”